
I have seven children and they have given me 26 grandchildren who I love very much. Children can be challenging in this world of deteriorating values. They were challenging for me years ago. I felt so inadequate being in charge of all their needs, feeding them, housing them and clothing them. I felt the urgency to help them develop character, unlease their spiritual potential and help them to become independent moral people that would fit in society. One child was a big job but seven....what was I thinking.
So with that said, and knowing I am basically out of the kid business, (all of them are raising their own children) I feel to tell the world (who ever will listen) what I would do if I could do things all over again. Where my priorities would be now, that I have a clear picture of the past.
Here is my "I WISH I HAD OF DONE LIST"
Lesson #1
I would have set up my home as a "Christ Centered Home" complete with everything I could think of that would invite the Savior to spend time with us, including pictures that depict the Savior throughout his life, everything entering would reflect what I believed in. The TV would NOT be the center of my living room. There is almost nothing on it that teaches what I would want taught to those I love the most. The TV would be small and in a inconspicuous place unplugged only to be used on special occasions.
Lesson # 2
Family Home Evening once a week! No way....it would be everyday, every evening. I would cease each moment to teach, edify and share my testimony of my Savior Jesus Christ. Teaching would be my focus especially the teachings of the gospel of Jesus Christ would be #1 focus.
Lesson # 3
From the time each baby was born until they left home I would be looking for ways to teach my favorite subject, "How to recognize a prompting from the spirit, and to promptly follow that prompting. When I saw the movie "Ephraim's Rescue" I knew what made that young man special...He knew the voice of the Holy Ghost and he always acted upon it quickly. A great article to read is in the June 2013 Ensign page 24, written by Jeniffer Jones...."Nine Principles for a successful family" A family choose to take a Sabbatical for a entire year from activities such as dance, sports, anything that took them away from their family focus. They chose to focused on recognizing the spirit and understanding their responsibility in responding to those promptings. They had great discussions around dinner every evening, took walks and focused on one thing only. Wow! I can see the value of that is far higher than another year of tumbling or dance.
Lesson #4
I would try to instill in them how to recognize key words used by the adversary such as : FEAR, ANGER, WORRY and HATE. These are tactics created to keep us away from trusting God. Our world seems to love drama....and we don't want our children to go there. They need to know that God knows them so well that He has their best interest in hia hands at all times. We are here to be tested and yes, bad things do happen to good people. We can grow from our trials and our difficulties.
Lesson #5 I would limit outside influences in my home. Yes I mean friends, I would hope to have such a wonderful environment that they love being at home with their family Siblings would be their best friends. Our home would be a place of refuge from the world and always feel safe and loved.
Lesson #6 Once a month FHE I would invite interesting people with marvelous testimonies into our home for dinner and a time for them to influence my children with their testimonies. My children could also practice their manners and learn how to interact and ask good questions to the speakers. I would also have the whole family look for a service project we could all participate in somewhere in the community (secretly if possible) at least once a month. Service is huge and finding them opportunities to give freely to others.
So for what its worth maybe these lessons can be of value to others, since I am thus un-employed I will blog them out into the world.